Kari Harburn, MA, LPC, CAADC, CCS

Most people hear a voice inside their head that points out mistakes, doubts, or fears. For many, this inner critic is a passing thought. But for others, especially those who have faced chronic stress, criticism, trauma, or challenges like ADHD, this voice can become harsh and constant. It turns small setbacks into proof that they are not good enough. Learning to quiet this inner critic is a muscle that can be strengthened with practice. Keep reading as we share practical ways to turn down...

If you’re the one who holds everything together—at home, at work, in relationships—you might be praised as dependable, selfless, or “the strong one.” But underneath that competence, there’s often exhaustion, resentment, and a quiet question: Why does it feel like everything depends on me? Rooted in Bowen Family Systems Theory , over-functioning describes a pattern where one person consistently takes on more responsibility—emotionally, mentally, or practically—than is actually theirs. Often,...

There’s a quiet assumption many of us carry: If I just try harder, I should be able to do it all. But for many people—especially those navigating trauma, chronic stress, caregiving, or mental health challenges—this belief quickly collides with reality. By mid-afternoon, you’re depleted. Simple tasks feel overwhelming. Instead of adjusting expectations, the inner narrative becomes: What’s wrong with me? What if nothing is wrong with you? What if the issue isn't effort—but energy? Understanding...